He popped the question and she said yes. 💑

Most of our friends and of cause our family members knew what has happened in 18 May 2018. But not knowing how this happened. I was haunted by the question of how I was proposed to. So, here I am to cure your thirst and I want to pen down this wonderful moments in my life so that next time we can read it over again and to remind us how lovely we were when we have disagreements.

First and foremost, we would like to thank everyone for your overwhelming congratulatory massages, for blowing our phone with happy wishes right after we made the announcement and thank you for adding to the joyful and positive spirit on our remarkable day.

I would say that this is a simple yet very meaningful marriage proposal to me. I believe, everyone dream about getting a luxury, unique and big surprise marriage proposal in our early 20's. I was one of them. As the age goes by, our mind set changed accordingly. I evaluate reality more clearly, I make better decisions and I know what quality of living intentionally I want. That is " the growing process". Instead of demanding a glamorous marriage proposal, I demand a long lasting relationship. Marriage proposal would be a bonus now. Lol.

He did brought-up this topic few months before. But I isn't sure if he is in a serious planning or what. By the way, the topic always briefly passed by and I don't really want to go into this topic to make him feel like I very "愿嫁". But inside my heart, I really happy to hear about it larh of course. I even joked with him telling him to make sure he give me more hints if he is about to propose, so I can dress up a little on this important day. Lol.

Okay, here's the story! He proposed on 18 May 2018. Why 18 May? It's just simply because that's the only time he ends work earlier than me, so he have that little drips of time to prepare. Month of May was the busiest month for me. My schedule was slotted with training and flying. And 18 May 2018 was one of the training but the only one held in Singapore. My training ends at 5pm and he ends work at 4pm on that day. *Poor thing, he only have like less that 1 hour time to get ready.*

He actually told me a day before that he will be riding to JB to feed his bike after work. I didn't suspect anything as it is a weekly routine for him to do when he gets to leave his workplace at 4pm. I normally won't be texting him if he is on his way to JB. So, without my interruption, he able to race with the time to get things done.

I reached home passed 5:30pm. The owner was sitting at the living room watching tv, she glanced at me which she normally don't do that. But I didn't bother much as I was tired af after the whole day training. I dragged my tired bones toward the direction to my room and unlocked the door.

I saw ... ... Balloons floating all over the room. Pink and transparent colored balloons filled up the ceiling. I was gasped in surprise. There was a note attached to the biggest balloon among all. I walk forward & read the note. Not gonna share the content here as I would love to keep it as personal.
But hor, the note didn't mention "你愿意嫁给我吗?" but the balloon printed "Mr & Mrs". Ish, make me like super extra buay paiseh thinking is a proposal. So I come a crossed this must be the surprise to cheer me up or ask for my forgiveness as we were into some disagreement during the past few days when I was stationed in Kuala Lumpur for training.

 

Oh ya, you must be wondering where is this fella went right? He was hiding in the stuffy bathroom for about 15 minutes for me to stay in the room with lot of question marks in my head. He entered the room and was perspiring like just came out after sauna. Lol. Not sure if he was nervous af or just because this dramatic moment happened under the room without air circulation. Really hot sia. No joke because cannot turn on the fan. Else "habis" the balloons and I'll turn into the Hulk.

 

He smiled at me, I melt** again and again. He approached me and gave me a hug. I couldn't remember what response I gave him. He told me he has been making me angry this few days. So I lagi confirm that this is to cheer me up. I thank him for the sweet surprise and at the same time telling him is too "隆重"lor ! I mean can be more cost cautious like buy me food then settled. Haha.

So, I thought this will be the ending of the surprise already. I kept requesting him to take pretty pictures for me with the balloons *Ah, standard larh...*. When I was busy moving the balloons to one corner and at the same time telling him this is too much larh, if other people saw, surely they thought it's a marriage proposal. He was at my back telling me "what if it is really a proposal?" I don't know why I was so retarded that day still can answer back "Aiya, 你哪里可能会求婚的啦？" Because we actually debated on this ---> Is marriage proposal a necessity. And we both have disagreement on it before. Lol. So I thought if it really do happen to get marry with him, it would be like setting a date for ROM and that's it.

I turned around and he kneed down with a diamond ring and said "Dear, 嫁给我好吗?", I can see tears rolling in his eyes which make me about to cry. I was so touched and I could not remember how I responded because everything happened too fast and unsuspectingly the ring slipped on my finger.

Then I request to take some picture with another family member of us which is his beloved superbike. We almost went on every date with it, it's like a part of our family.

My fiance was my pre-schoolmate at the age of 4, 5 or 6. He was also my classmate when we were at the age of 8 to 12 (primary school). We missed out spending our teenage hood together and missed out growing up together.  Somehow, fate brought us back, we reunited again after I moved to Singapore. He was a good friend who guided me and offer help when I was so new to Singapore and I also aware that he was in a relationship and things doesn't work well in the end for them. We re-built our friendship for almost a year and went through up and down together. After almost a year later, he confessed to me. We dated for half a year. And today, he is my fiance.  Thank you for accepting my flaws and imperfections, you definitely know how to cheer me up at my worst. I cherish every moment we spent together. And I hope together hand in hand we can keep our love strong and unbreakable in our remanding life time.

To who were in a part of the journey in my life,

I want to thank you for the love that you have given to me for my first ever relationship when I was only 16 and we ended our relationship after lasting for 7 years because I took it for granted. That was  the time I start to learn how to live life independently and be appreciative of my life. I get to understand more about myself and accept for who I am and take fully control of my life.

I started my second relationship when I was at the age of 24. Unfortunately, the relationship was unhealthy and I decided to put a full stop on this toxic relationship after 1 and a half years. I felt so much relieved for the decision I have made after losing trust on someone being unfaithful that I put so much effort on. And there was where I lost trust on people and I see the complication in between human. But, I am thankful for what I have been through to make me a better person today.

I enjoyed my single life for almost 4 years (yup, now u can tell how old am I), and of cause in between the past 4 years, I met new friends and also start connecting with old friends and went into a few dates but it doesn't work out either one of us where not prepared. My parents start to panic and thought I would choose to be forever alone. I actually live my life to the fullest as a single. I traveled around, explore and make new friends, find new hobbies and overcome things that I fear of. I quit my job in KL and started my new life in Singapore when I get an offer.

If I would have the chance to reverse my life, I still prefer not to. I don't see any reason to change my past as it leads me to where and who I am today.

To my past self,

Thank you for making silly mistakes; I now know how to make wiser decision for my future.
Thank you for the heartaches you have received; I now know how to appreciate the good people in my life.
I am incredibly thankful to have experienced cheerful and challenging moments.
Thank you for creating a better me today!

I understand humans are born to be real, not perfect. We make mistake in the past, we grow from our mistake and be better in the present.

Love,
Present self.


I am looking forward to more in my future. See how far I can go and review them after a few years later.